Tuesday, June 16, 2015

How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims

 From the moment my son was born I vowed to do things the "right" way. I researched how-to care for babies, toddlers up until early childhood. I went to classes, asked friends and then I actually HAD my son. Nothing quite prepares you for parenthood until you actually do it. There is no "magical" formula but rather your motherly instinct which is found from examples you have seen, experience you have had and readings you instilled.
 I have always been a mix of a helicopter parent (worrying about my sons every waking move) to free range go have fun and enjoy life! I see other parents and how they parent and suddenly I have become the expert. I know what should or shouldn't be done. I see children unhappy, unloved and I just give my son more.
**I received a free copy of this book to review. I was not required to write a positive review nor was I compensated in any other way. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the FTC Regulations.
 I have been really encouraged and learning so much about myself in in this book, How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims. As, much as I love my son, he deserves the right to learn from his mistakes and grow to self-sufficiency.
I want my son to be a leader, a follower, team mate and most of all confident!   "They don’t learn to be confident in their own abilities, and it can affect their self-esteem. The other problem with never having to struggle is that you never experience failure and can develop an overwhelming fear of failure and of disappointing others (says Julie Lythcott-Haims)".
If technology didn't exist how would your child fare in the world without you? This was such a challenging book for me because it really asked you the hard questions. Do I want my son to grow up unequipped to do things on his own or do I want to do everything for him? I know adults who are 27-30 years old unable to do their own laundry or cook. What a disservice to them! This book is such a great read I could not recommend it enough to parents, grandparents, Aunts, uncles really anyone. Children are our future whether you physically have them or not!

1 comment:

  1. Sounds like a great book! I think I tend to hover between doing too much and letting them do it on the own. there are certain areas of life where I am great about letting them learn, letting them fail... and other areas, sometimes it just feels easier to do myself. Definitely need to work on those areas though. Thanks so much for linking up with the Best of the Blogosphere link party.